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The only thing about me, is the way I walk...?

I had the most disturbing conversation with my mother yesterday..  I have to blog it, if only so I have something to look back and laugh at.

The Mother-Ship:  "Do you always walk like....that?"
Me:  "Like what?"
The Mother-Ship: "You know.. with that bubble gum thing."
Me:  "Err... Pardon?"
The Mother-Ship: "You KNOW!"
Me:  "Mum, really, I don't..."
The Mother-Ship:  "Yes you do.  You've got that thing going on where you look like your ass is eating bubble gum..  What's it called..?"

I almost died. 

What my darling mother was referring to, was a chewing gum walk.  Which, for the record I do not have.  I can only assume that I have my new pants and new heels to thank for making my ass appear to "eat bubble gum" when I walk.

I've noticed something recently.. Well to be specific, I 'noticed' it somewhere inamongst the hangover ridden excuse of an Honours Degree education..   I was just too busy drinking cocktails and avoiding research, to find enough motivation to actually think about it.

Women in the media (I'm referring to women on TV and in movies, in particular)..  They get dumped.. Do they get even, or they accept that the relationship is over?

Sometimes.

Do they crack open a horrible expensive bottle of wine and drink the lot in under an hour?  Or do they call their friends and sob down the phone for hours, plotting the death of the culprit-ex-boyfriend.

Sometimes...

But first of all?  They eat.

And those who aren't shown to do it first, do it whilst carrying out one of the above tasks (or something similar).

Does that reinforce the idea that food = comfort?  Because to me, that tells us all that the way to cope with heartache, is to stuff a burger, three donuts and a tub of icecream down their necks.

Doesn't it reinforce the idea that to be alone is a terrible terrible thing, and we should instantly all drown ourselves in junk food and sad music?

Admittedly, after being dumped horribly, I have been known to eat an entire tub of Ben and Jerry's Phish Food, hidden under a duvet listening to Sinead O Connor's Nothing Compares To You.

 

I am part of the cliche.. 

Infact, when I first saw the Bridget Jones movie - I watched in horror as I saw this horrific drunken mess sing All By Myself at full pelt in her living room after a bottle of wine.  The torture of being dumped, being alone - can drive us all to be self destructive.  We eat crap, we sing along to stupid music, and we burst into tears whenever we see something that reminds us of him.  Yes, love can hurt.  But surely, we should be crying it all out, then moving on and getting on with it.  Not sobbing because we're alone, but sobbing because of what we have lost.  You mourn for the loss of a relationship, then realise that he was a bastard anyway, and you get over it.

But why is it that almost every single time I see a female on TV get dumped - I see her reach for comfort food?  Why do all the women in the media seem to fail at being alone?   

What's so bad about your own company?

I like my own company.  I'm perfectly capable of entertaining myself.  But, as much as I need some 'me' time every now and again - I like the company of a significant other.  I like having a man to snuggle up to.  That doesn't mean that I'm afraid of being alone.  It means that I choose not to be, because I have someone who cares about me, and someone who I care for.  If that relationship was negative, I would rather be single.

And that is precisely what I can't understand.  Why do so many women stick with useless men, simply because they don't think they can 'do any better', or that 'they don't like being alone'.  What are they so afraid of?

I've been in a long term relationship for four and a half years, and I can barely remember what it's like to be single.  But I remember spending alot of my time being single, wishing that I had someone.  Back then, I probably wasn't mature enough to realise that just because we're made to feel like we should have a man, because we're made to feel that men give women validation - that I didn't have to follow that example.

The media generally shows single women as either (a) striving to find a man, or (b) having lots of fun whilst dating numerous men and sleeping around.  A representation of a single woman who is not looking for, or dating a man (or men), is seldom seen.  In my opinion, this only reinforces the idea that to be single, is to fail. 

And in all honesty, a good few of my teenage years were wasted on dating useless men, simply because I felt the need to have someone.

Now, I realise that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single.  You have freedom.  You have choices to make and opportunities to grasp, and you don't have to think about anyone but yourself.

How can that possibly be a negative thing?

I'm not single.  And I don't intend to become single.  I have a partner who I love and who loves me.  The idea of being single again doesn't frighten me.  But the idea of losing him is unbearable.  That's the difference between wanting someone and making do with anyone. 

Relationships require work.  Hard work.  But some relationships are quite simply doomed. and no amount of hard work can rescue them.  In my opinion, if you rely on a man for validation or you're stuck in a negative relationship because you don't want to be alone..  Then perhaps you would benefit from working on the relationship that often needs the most work..  The one that's the most important of all the relationships you'll ever have..

The one you have with yourself.

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What song best describes your current mood?
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Nothing can express how much we all miss you. 

I hope you found a pot.  I know there's one out there somewhere.  :)

Moon river, wider than a mile
I'm crossin' you in style some day
Old dream maker, you heartbreaker
Wherever you're goin', I'm goin' your way
Two drifters, off to see the world
There's such a lot of world to see
We're after the same rainbow's end, waitin' 'round the bend
My huckleberry friend, Moon River, and me
Two drifters, off to see the world
There's such a lot of world to see
We're after the same rainbow's end, waitin' 'round the bend
My huckleberry friend, Moon River, and me